Dear friends,It's been over a month since you've last heard from me. Thank you for sticking around so long. It's been a month, but it feels like more.
A month, indeed. A month with a lot of changes and stepping-up to do, and here we are.
To some of you, my dear friends and family, who have been privy to the past events of my life, I am deeply, deeply thankful for your love, support, guidance, and loving kindness.
There were lessons I needed to learn, perspectives I needed to see things from, and battles I needed to choose.
There are times I need to stand my ground, and times I need to acede.
There are certain things the people I love and I may not see eye-to-eye on, or things that we may not understand of each other, but that doesn't mean that we love each other any less, or any less valid in our ways.
Gossip is a hateful thing, and in the end, no one wins.
Forgiveness makes everyone stronger.
The events of the past month have brought James and I through irrevocable and courageous changes, and I do believe that we are meant to be where we are right now.
James and I have moved in together.
We now are slowly settling into a cozy 40sqm loft-type apartment, piecing a liveable but loving home day by day. Mink has finally gotten comfortable with the place, and enjoys watching the world pass by beneath her on her 50ft-high perch.
Friends have supported us in so many ways, from kind and calming words, to tofu chili dinners, to O Bar night, to helping hands and eyes and minds. Ditas, Irl, Jo, Patricia, Clair, Mik, PJ, Tobie, Jandy, Cindy, George, Lico, and so many, many more, I thank you from the bottom of my heart and I hold you dear to me.
The view from our bedroom window.
James and I are stepping into this together. We've been warned that what we face now is not easy, and I agree. Adventures are never meant to be easy or problem-free, if they are ever to be worth the quest.
I do admit (and my friends can attest to this) I sometimes get panic attacks and nervous spells over sundry things -- "oh gosh, will we manage? How will we fix the house up? How will we manage our funds?" and so on --, and boy, I've discovered I can actually work myself into heights of frenzy I never thought possible.
At times like this (as my pals Jo, Ditas, PJ, and more have told me over and over), I need to remember ---
- Take one day at a time; take it one thing at a time. (In my mind -- one dragon at a time.)
- In truth, I have everything I need right now.
- In the great, unfathomable randomness of the Universe, somehow, I am meant to be right where I am now.
“Fairy Tales are more than true; not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.”
~~ G. K. Chesterton
To life, love, liberty, and truth, friends!
May we celebrate and savor this complex, beautiful, and fleeting thing called Life!